Letters to the Editor: Say thanks if love finds you

Do you find that we spend a lot of
time worrying about the packaging of love a lot more than you should?

He’s not tall enough, dark enough
muscular enough.

She’s too plain and not flashy

How much education does he have
again? What kind of job? 

Are we kidding ourselves thinking
that the perfect person actually exists? Seriously, I have a really great task
to ask of each person reading this. 

Take a moment and go look in the
mirror, any mirror, just stop what you are doing right now and go look in the
mirror. Did you do it? Are you ready for the question then? Did you happen to
see a perfect person there in that mirror?

Now if there was not one there, in
that mirror looking back at you, where one should be or you thought one was,
then where in the world, pray tell, are you to find one? I know that I seem to
simplify things a lot when I write or talk or whatever but you know I think
life is a lot more simple than we make it and we often make it more complicated
than it should be.

There are even times when we worry
what people think more than what we think and cannot differentiate who is doing
the thinking. When it comes to love we have to start thinking for ourselves and
when it calls then we need to just answer. 

The packaging may not fit our
description but who cares about the packaging if the person is who we need them
to be or who fits us. There are many people who can attest to not even being
attracted to a person at first sight and eventually fell insanely in love with
them after getting to know them. 

I mean in this day of Internet
dating where you don’t even really know what someone looks like, this is even
more plausible. Sometimes we think the timing isn’t right, but if the stars line
up then maybe your timing is off.

Being blessed to find someone who
you can relate to and who has your back is simply a blessing. There are some
people who don’t want to be in a relationship and that is fine too but for
those of you who want to be in love and who lament about love and who cry about
love; I say stop whining and just look around.

Love is not going to come to your
door and knock and say “here I am, the love you are looking for”.  Sometimes we have to go out and see what’s
out there or when we’re out there, we might just have to pay closer attention.
Maybe you have been passing it day in and day out so focused on finding it.
Maybe it is the single guy at your local grocery store who always remembers you
when you go by the juice stand or the girl who works at the port and helps you
locate your shipping material. You never know where love is lurking these

Maybe it is even in your own
neighbourhood, walking right by your house, or so I’ve heard; hey stranger
things have happened!

Just follow your heart and let it
lead you. Live for today and stop saving it all up for what might or might not
come tomorrow or what may or may not be. 
Today is what is important and if you are lucky to find someone that you
love and loves you back, then thank your lucky stars that you found them. Love
is nothing to scoff at or plan. Love is there, waiting for you and when it
comes, take it and just say thank you!   

And then tell me how your week is
going at [email protected] You can also catch my program Cayman Let’s
Talk on Cayman 27 every Tuesday night at 7PM.