Writer: Promoting 'the gay lifestyle'

We have been coming to your beautiful island for 20 years and have appreciated the beauty, friendliness, lack of crime and its religious side.

We are not homophobic and have a few gay friends. However, we are disappointed to see a seminar advertised to enlighten people on the gay lifestyle and to accept gays. Is that really necessary? There are very few people who do not accept gays, even though they do not approve necessarily of their lifestyle. Then there was an picture ad by the AIDS Foundation group in your paper on Jan. 22 that we found very offensive.

We have no objection to gays living or vacationing on your island, but if it is going to become predominantly gay then we do have an objection. Are you trying to promote gays to come and/or reside here? Why are you not promoting the heterosexual lifestyle and/or a religious-based lifestyle and instead focusing on the gays? What kind of an island do you want? It is not going in the direction that we think is healthy or desirable. Nor is it an island we will want to continue coming to, if that is the case.

We are sure the majority of people feel the same way. Please respond to our concerns.


  1. For someone who claims not to be homophobic, it sure does look to me like you are very scared of homosexual people. I wonder if the few gay friends that you have are aware that you are a bigot? I find it very strange that you believe promoting acceptance and tolerance will make our island predominantlly gay in population. The reason for this seminar is to help people, like yourself, gain understanding and accpetance for gays in our community. You say that there are very few people who do not accept gays which is actually not the case on our island, or most Caribbean islands for that matter. You may be unaware of the hate and intolerance for gays that is inbedded in our culture, and this most certainly should be addressed on a public level. Helping people accept and understand different lifestyles is vital to making a healthy community. I am sorry you feel the way you do about this issue, and perhaps you could attend a seminar to open your eyes and see that people are just people, no matter what color, nationality, sexual orientation you are no different from anyone else. We are all equal and should be treated as such.

  2. I hope Cayman Islands will avoid issue of positive discrimination and will be able to balance it properly. Positive discrimination is discrimination still.


    Ruining peoples career only because they lawfully donated money against allowing gay marriages in California (like Brendan Eich story).

    Establishing minimum gay-quota at workplace (which leads to hiring people just because they are gay even if the are worse fit for the job compared to heterosexual candidate).

    Establishing quotas on buying from gay-approved suppliers (like some companies boast about).

    Conducting Gay – Olympic Games, as if gays are not allowed to conventional ones.

    All things above are now prevalent in many countries.

  3. I have to agree with the commenter above. There are definitely strong homophobic undertones in your letter.

    To illustrate my point, replace the word gays with Blacks, Chinese, Jews, or any other race for that matter. The tone would undeniably come off as racist.

    For example, taking the first sentence of your third paragraph: We have no objection to blacks living or vacationing on your island, but if it is going to become predominantly black then we do have an objection.

    How does that sound? Pretty racist if you ask me. Just as your opinion comes off as homophobic.

    I don’t believe you’re an extremist by any means. But simply claiming you aren’t homophobic because you have a few gay friends doesn’t make it true. In my opinion, the fact that you chose to write in about the matter speaks volumes about how uncomfortable you really are with homosexuals.

    Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. But I believe a healthy society can be gauged by their acceptance of each individual regardless of race, gender, or sexual orientation. The Cayman Islands are doing a fantastic job at promoting equality and that’s what should be applauded.

  4. Thank you writer! I’m so sick of being told and bullied into acceptance of every form of lifestyle there is, just because its the norm in the west.

    Mr Hughes, your point is completely flawed.

    There is a difference between being black or a Jew or part of some other ethic group or nationality. Race isn’t a lifestyle, it’s a physical characteristic, or nationality being origin etc.

    Many on this island believe in Christianity by in large and we would like _THAT_ RESPECTED. Tolerance in today’s world generally means _Christians_ doing away with their beliefs. Do you see Muslims tolerating Christians in today’s world, across different countries?

    Christians fundamentally disagree with homosexuality from a moral and healthy relationship point of view especially where families and children are concerned. You can call that homophobic, intolerant whatever but it remains a fact that the lifestyle is disapproved of completely in Christianity. The Christians that I know have no intentions on rewriting the bible to suit any given lifestyle Christianity in the name of not being called homophobes.

    Now that’s not to say that we should be intolerant toward Gay people. But we DO NOT HAVE to accept the lifestyle as being on par with the moral guidelines of Christianity. Period.

    We don’t need to be educated on the gay life style. or another lifestyle of that matter.

    How is this for acceptance and tolerance? Let’s try this for a change, people coming here to visit or live, why don’t they try tolerating Christians?

    Thank you.

  5. AJ Ebanks,

    I just wonder what lifestyle you are referring to? The one where gay people act just like everyone else except for who they choose to be sexually attracted to, which is really none of anyone’s business.

    You talk of Cayman being a Christian nation and we should respect that, but as far as I can tell Cayman promotes a non Christian lifestyle just as much as anywhere else. In November the streets are filled with drunken pirates, in February the streets are filled with drunken Mardi Gras partyers and in May the streets are filled with drunken jumpers in the Batabano parade. All of this is well accepted and promoted as part of Cayman heritage. So is that the moral, straight lifestyle you prefer over the gay one?

    You also say being gay is not like race because it’s not a physical characteristic. Well if who you are sexually attracted to isn’t a physical characteristic, then what is? It’s just as much a part of someone’s identity as their skin color. And before you say it’s a choice, then please answer exactly when it was you made the choice to be straight. Surely there was a moment in your life where you must’ve considered being gay or straight and chose the straight path.

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