Time is promised to no one so we need to honour it. We think we have time and sometimes we really don’t. We put off for tomorrow what we should do today for ourselves, our family, our loved ones.
When was the last time that you told someone how beautiful you thought they were? Anyone; your mother, sister, daughter, friend, co-worker, associate? We all like to be told good things about ourselves and yet we don’t realise how important it is to do the same for others.
We walk through life so fast that we even forget to let people know how important they are and when we do realise, the time has just flown by. I remember when I moved home with my little children and travelled back to the US for grad school and had a conversation with my ex who had not realised that we had been separated for over seven years or that I had been away for over three years. He thought it was only about three years that we had actually separated until we realised that my daughter who was six months old when we broke up, was now eight years old. Needless to say that the look on his face was that of amazement as we discussed the bubble of life that he had been caught up in.
We are all guilty of getting caught up in that bubble and with work, responsibilities and everything else pulling on our strings to do, we lose time in the bubble until it bursts. Four years later I was at his funeral burying him. The bubble of time that consumed him and me and everyone else had burst without us even imaging those years before that he may not have been around much longer. The bubble of time does not prepare us for that because it has us caught up and thinking that one day soon we will have time to do all of these things; spend time with the folks that we love, spend the money that we will have to spare and enjoy all of the things that we are working for.
Forget about tomorrow just for today and do something nice for someone that you know. Is there a fence that needs mending in your life? Mend it. Call on your blessings and make that call today. Too often we leave everything for tomorrow thinking that we have so much time when no one truly knows what will happen beyond this moment that we have. We practice unhealthy things as we save up for tomorrow.
Stop eating at your desk every day; there are wonderful spots to explore or relax even with your leftovers from home. Stop working way past dark every day; you deserve to drive home in time to see the sunset. Stop vegging out on the couch on the weekends; there are people to visit and nature to see. Somehow these things feel good when you do them and you feel even more relaxed than the time that you don’t do them. Try it. It works.
Spend some of your money that you are working for today! Treat yourself to lunch or dinner out somewhere once a week or at least once a month; and take your friend, even if you have to pay dutch. Go see a movie or a play with your new friend or old pal. Look at your beauty. Look at your blessings; count them one by one. Look at your divine self and thank God right now for it. And pick up that phone or compose that e-mail because somewhere, someone needs to hear how beautiful they are to you and how important they are in your life so tell them today! Is there someone today that needs your ear or your shoulder? Maybe it is someone you have known for a short time, maybe forever but today they need to hear it. Talk to them about their dreams and plans. How about that thing that you have been planning to do but just haven’t gotten around to it? Do it done today because today you still have.
And tell me how your week is going at [email protected]
Catherine Tyson, MSW is the author of I’m Somebody’s Mama available at your local bookstore and host of the Lighten Up Show With Catherine Tyson Tuesdays at 7PM on Cayman 27.