Getting out of a rut

Are you stuck in a rut and can’t seem to get out no matter how hard you try? Nothing you do seems to come out right.

You try and try and just seem to always come up with nothing. No job, no relationship, no good friends, no luck, no anything at all. What is happening with that?

First of all know that this is not unique to you and that we have all been there at one time in our life or another. Also know that nothing is absolute and we will most probably visit there again because life is about the ever changing journey with ups and downs!

Next ask yourself why you are stuck in this particular rut again. And then understand that being stuck is simply a state of mind and being unstuck is as easy as staying there because ultimately you are choosing one or the other.

It is as simple as that.

We make choices to be miserable, stay miserable or get up and dust ourselves off and start again.

We really do.

Being stuck is real but being unstuck is just as real.

How do you get unstuck? You choose to; plain and simple!

For instance if you want to move forward you first have to take a step. If you want to go somewhere in the car, you first have to start the engine and put the car in drive and move. It works the same way if you want to go nowhere and then take no steps. See how far that will get you. Imagine getting into your car and not deciding to start the engine. Will you ever move or will you just stay there? Either way you have to make a decision.

Sadness and ruts are not a new phenomenon and they threaten to steal all of our positive energy. They steal our smile and laughter and days of enjoyment and we allow them to when we choose to let them. We have to find ways to exit from under the sea of black clouds or to breathe in the clean crisp air and enjoy what life has to offer.

Go get some ice cream or even frozen yogurt. Eat a piece of fruit or drink a nice cool refreshing glass of water.

Ride a bicycle.

Car pool to avoid the issue of dealing with traffic.

Sing along with your favourite CD as you navigate the insanity of morning and evening traffic.

Or as my Jamaican friends would say “nice yourself up” and go somewhere with folks that you like to be around and cheer yourself up.

It is funny how clear some things can get when we do stuff like that.

You have to find the ways to get out of the rut that you are in order for you to feel better. No one else can do that for you. And then voila’ the answers may sometimes magically appear.

Try it and see how good it feels and then tell me how your week is going at [email protected]

Catherine Tyson is the author of I’m Somebody’s Mama and host of the Lighten Up Show With Catherine Tyson on Cayman 27.