A friend of mine on Facebook just posted a statement that summed up the past few weeks of my life. She said “if you must look, then look, but don’t hate, just appreciate; this is not about you”.
Wow I think those are the most fitting and poignant words that I could have read or heard this past week and has inspired this piece. Why are folks so quick to hate on one another instead of just celebrating someone’s success. Another person’s success is truly not about you. The big world is also your oyster and is waiting for you to do your thing and make your mark so like Nike says: Just do it.
But in the meantime don’t be mean and hateful towards another person. This is not about you!
I wonder why it is so easy for human beings to tear one another down and never for a moment even realise the damage that it can cause. If you are a hater – and deep down if you care to admit it you know – I challenge you today to put yourself in someone else’s shoes and then see how you would feel if they were doing that to you. See the funny thing is that we get back what we give and send out, so even if it is being selfish you should promise yourself that you will exercise being good to others just because that is what is going to come back to you.
Love is so much better than hate because it makes everyone feel good and with hate it makes everyone feel bad including the hater.
Look around you and see if there is anything that you can be happy about and celebrate that. Remember it comes back to you!
I have met the most hateful of people and have had to look down as far as their shoes to say “wow what a nice pair of shoes” and like clockwork their hateful face, almost cracking, looks up and gives me the scariest of smiles that almost reached their eyes.
And I challenge myself that next time I see them I will muster up enough to find something else good to say to see if I can make that smile actually reach.
I do this because I think everyone deserves to feel good, even the most hateful of us and maybe I can reverse something in them.
Call me crazy, call me counsellor, call me “bleeding heart do gooder, who thinks I can save the world.”
Most days it serves me well until I start dragging these people home with me and then all hell breaks loose, and I am not advising that you do that for sure. Where was I again? Right! Haters just stop hating.
Plain and simple because it just isn’t nice.
And for the folks who are being hated on then I say this to you: Position yourself for happiness by surrounding yourself with good energy, good people and positive vibes and forget about the naysayers and haters.
Don’t let them steal your joy and stop listening to their garbage.
Exercise the delete button in more ways than one.
Work on you; get well mentally, physically and especially emotionally, which might mean getting rid of dead weight literally and figuratively, and one is sometimes harder than the other and I leave you to figure out which one that is in your life.
And maybe, just maybe, your success and unhappiness will be infectious and they will catch a bit of it and we can all live happily ever after in harmony.
Or maybe as they realise that you don’t even have them to study they will be like Rumpelstiltskin from the fairy tale and get so mad at not getting their way that they “stomp so hard and create a chasm in the earth and fall into it, never to be seen or heard of again”, at least not by you anyway.
Either way that could be a win-win situation. Just make sure that you don’t catch the negativity and failure bug because that can happen and you can end up just as miserable and depressed as they are.
And we have enough of that now don’t we.
So get your smile ready, the real one that reaches your eyes and remember that this is not about you and then again maybe it is because there is room for all of us and we are patiently waiting to dance at your celebration too.
And hurry up because my dancing shoes are in the corner.
And if all else fails don’t hate; celebrate! And tell me how your week is going at [email protected].
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